One thing that struck me is how she said they both acted like everything was okay, knowing otherwise.
Every couple has their way of doing things, but I guess I am more of a say it as it is. I would say I am dying and want to tell you the following (after giving basic relevant info. to find me) and then if they found me great but at that time I would be surrendered and honest.
Yet we never know until it happens to us and maybe that truth in and of itself would be too much to handle and would take the focus off what needed to be said. Who knows. Either way it is hard and he did seem to be somewhat delirious at that point as well. My sense then is that when they were looking for him she felt very strongly that he was already dead. Yet held out a grain of hope.
I agree, I would have been asking questions wanting to know every detail. But then again, I am the type that likes to know all the details. It makes it easier for my mind to understand, absorb and to accept. Maybe she will regret not doing that some day.