It's not a "dilemma" if there are more than those two possible courses of action.
Are those the only two options? (Would I "rather" have her sleep around? Ha! Ha!) Of course not. Adoption, for instance, is wonderful choice; and not the only one.
I'm no expert, but from what I understand, adoption is extremely costly and can take years and years. I don't think it is a realistic option for everyone. It is definitely not an option for a single female. The powers that be should make it easier for people to adopt children.