I don't know why the shame should only be dealt by the school. In my household, an NP isn't acceptable, and we crack open the books and STUDY. I don't wait for the teacher to start remedial instruction. I don't wait for her to call me. If my child cannot learn in the classroom what he must be taught, the responsibility falls on the shoulders of the parent... me. I won't let the school district just ignore his progress and hope for the best.
I agree with what you are saying. However, my only complaint is that I have a special needs child, and I need help in teaching her.
I have done all the standard stuff when it comes to teaching her to read, but she is still having troubles.
When I told the school district (and even got an independent evaluation saying she needed help), they did nothing.
We are lucky in that I am very computer saavy, and I have done tons of research on reading problems. We are also very fortunate that my husband has a great job.
We have put both of our daughters in a private school, and one of them is now getting a reading program that is supposed to help her.
However, there is another program that I would really like to get her into, and we cannot afford that one (Lindamood-Bell Lips). It costs about $20,000. It is supposed to be wonderful, but we just cannot swing another $20K on a reading program. We are already spending $15K on private school, and $8K on speech therapy. That's a lot of money.
Sometimes, it really sucks having a special needs kid. (However, she is a real sweetheart!)