Your mother must have gone to the same cooking school. My mom was a great cook for everything except green vegetables. She boiled them all to within an inch of edibility.
I didn't eat vegetables on a regular basis for years, unless I cooked them.
during my last year in school, while still living at home before I moved from NYC to Delaware, I did all the cooking. Neither my mother or brother would eat the veggies I cooked because they considered them to still be raw.
I'm sorry, but I want some texture in my veggies. Cauliflower should not have the consistency of mashed potatoes, nor should asparagus. Most especially at the prices we were paying for both back then (1981-82)