Can you show me ANY definitive proof that the person he was IMing was a "kid"? The kid who was emailing back and forth is different than the person in the IM. The person he was IMing might be a former page who was over 18, which legally makes him an adult with all the rights and responsibilities you and I have.
That is a good point. I assumed when the kid said he had homework, and talked about living at home, and doing lacrosse and waltzing - I did assume he was in highschool. Could have been University and he could also have been in his 20s or 30s or whatever. Personally I doubt it.
Having said that, I will probably be called a homophobe but frankly the gender aspect of it bothers me to.