I have friends here, close to SF, who lose a close relative on Flight 93. They are dear, sweet people, but they are in the "peace at any price" camp who are always wondering "In what ways was this our fault?" They are very nice people (and not stupid in other ways) and I don't want to lose their friendship, but I cannot for the life of me comprehend how they could have a relative on Flt 93 and feel anything but towering rage and hatred for the b******ds who created that situation.
They are very thoughtful people, despite this huge blind spot. They know I am a supporter of President Bush and his war policies, and at this last memorial for 93, they went out of their way to get a Presidential seal lapel pin for me, from one of the President's aides.
I think some people are just really afraid to feel very powerful negative emotions. They find it easier not to "comprehend."
I want to choose my words carefully here...there's a question in some people's minds whether the greater enemy is foreign or domestic. Given that, there may be a question in some people's minds whether the first shots should be aimed foreward, or sideways.