I know I keep picking your post to make a larger statement. Please accept my apologies. For some reason the stuff you write on this subject makes me think of larger points. For instance, you mentioned the husband and wife making the best choices for their children which I agree with.
Yet this reminded me of another thing that is happening in our society that is just so-o wrong and off course. That is all the parents that make their children their God. The children in my opinion and the bible's are made to be taught submission to God. This lesson and its loving/righteous role modeling should be the first and only role for the parent. It is easy to say, my not having kids and all, but my Christian friends that do live in this way are just amazing people and their children incredible. Not perfect mind you, but still inspiring to watch.
I believe (and the bible states) this is the vision for how parents should go about raising their children. It holds everyone accountable for their actions and their day to day living and commitment to Christ/God. Hopefully these responsibilities make us better servants of God, not slaves to our children.