O, for the good old days, when all (white) men had to do to do well was show up with clean fingernails, and all the women who applied were asked when they planned to have children. What a perfect world that was...all the talent chucked to the side could type or be Pullman porters, right?
Any parent who fails to convince their progeny that the world is a competitive place, and that they had better be prepared to COMPETE, be they male or female, no matter where granpa came from, has short-changed their kids.
I don't recall the males I competed against academically having either a lack of testosterone or the ability to focus and work, and this was decades before ADD. I don't recall teachers or professors making things easy for women, either--but if you were ***motivated***, a woman could overcome a lot. My guess is that a smart, motivated male still does well in the system, and that spoiled, LAZY, cossetted brats get left behind.
Ummm, no ... my concern is for little guys (i.e. K-6) who are stuck in a system that continually implicitly and explicitly runs contrary to their wiring them. Or worse, stuck also with an angry feminist teacher who rarely misses a chance to demean them. that kind of damage is lasting.
We've avoided that by homeschooling, BTW.
You should read Sommer's book, "The War Against Boys." It will dispel some of your misconceptions.