Oh, well. You don't have an all-night baby, so you can have Standards :-).
I've not yet encountered anyone who's prepared to address the fatherhood question ...
I am SO lucky . . . all my babies slept through the night very early. Except for occasional bouts with a bug, we've slept pretty peacefully (my husband reminds me that our eldest was in a bassinet in the bedroom for the first three months. HE didn't have to get up to feed her though!)