I have a lot of friends and relatives who got sober in AA. And some of them did a lot worse than Mel in their drinking years. I hope Mel finds AA. They're good people.
"I hope Mel finds AA. They're good people."
No problem. Must agree about the fine, sober people in AA. They've been "my crowd" for many years. More specifically, they also saved my life.
My point is that entirely too many people believe they have to identify the 'root cause' of their drinking BEFORE they can sober up. Wrong-o. That's a thoroughly bogus, backward assumption. If I'd sat around trying to figure out the 'root cause' of my alcoholism, I'm confident I'd still be drunk. Or dead. Or nuts. Living sober trumps all three of those options by many, many miles.
Day one of my recovery numerous AA's told me the first thing I needed to do was to stop drinking. Completely. They assured me there'd be plenty of time to work on all the rest of my issues once I attained and maintained sobriety. They were right, of course. 'Root causes' don't matter. Sobriety does.