Exactly and I am guilty of that myself. Even as I typed my above response and this one, I am thinking, "I don't want to sound to harsh as I understand mental illness, etc...".
But you are right, DRS, people, even me at times, have become to cowardly to stand up against what is wrong. She could have prevented herself from having any more children by using birth control, there were many things she could have done to help herself and her family.
I think its all because there are 300 million people just waiting to pounce when someone DOES take a stand against what is wrong. But, we must always remember that PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT, as our moms always told us. Our moms really did know what was best...