I admit I call folks OBL'ers when they just jump in threads and start attacking posters, and posting to like minded posters without discussing the issue at hand with facts and an honest intellectual discussion of the topic.
It seems certain folks post to get a rise out of other posters which self perpetuates.
But it sounds like you blame others for your own wrongdoing. You're obviously a product of the never-accept-responsibility-for-your-own-problems culture.
My kids tried that when they were little. I just never let them get away with it.
When that didn't work, the "OBLers" as you call them, started coming after you. We are looking for perspective and balance. We want to be able to say "Good job" over here and "We want this done better" over there without it dissolving into some kind of masochistic chickenlittlehood.
The great irony of all of this is two fold. First, you alienated supporters of your own cause and weakened your own case. Second, you are being warned. There is great potential here to hurt your cause further if reasonable care and transparent accountability is not demanded. Granted sometimes the warning has been sounded with disingenuous glee. But you can not allow that to back you so far into a corner you hurt the greater cause.
All I can say is this. This debate has NEVER been about goals. It has been about process and how we need to accomplish those goals. Screaming at each other over this will not only set border control back, it will cede control to those with even less concern about it. And frankly, of all the potential outcomes here, that is the worst one.
Thanks for sticking with me through this little rant. I wish you the very best. Good luck.