I would direct you to re-read Hirshman's statement about destroying the family as it is presently constituted. By her own admission, her aims are very clearly not so benign as you portray them.
In addition, Mr Adler and I share household chores, and childcare too, and always have, so what? Kids still need a mom and a dad, whenever possible, and I applaud the desire of increasing numbers of well educated young women to stay at home with their kids when they are little. The world of work, and of careers, is becoming so much more flexible that this is going to be more and more possible in the future. Good!
OK, but how long would you say the kids are "little"? When the kids go to school, staying home is pretty much makework, not necessary for their wellbeing or anybody else's.
I take my hat off to my own parents and my sister, both of whom showed me that the parents can juggle their schedules so that one or the other is always home. From time to time the grandparents have pinch-hit.
In point of fact, my husband's schedule has always had more flextime built in than mine. I know there are people who are so well off financially that juggling priorities is never even an issue.
But I agree with Hirschman, if the way that the family resolves the need to juggle is to say, "the wife and mother always sacrifices," that's not the way I want to live.