Your points don't actually answer my question. Even so,I don't agree with your framing of the the issue anyway.
It's not a matter of two sides of a reasoned debate; it's a matter of what do you do when you find yourself 'negotiating' with a petulant, teenaged girl, but you have no authority to disallow her purile histrionics. Answer: get Ann Coulter to beat the little princess at her own game.
I don't expect Ann to convince too many people she's reasonable. I expect Ann to get payment in rhetorical blood from those who find "Borking" an acceptable tactic. I don't want her to change minds. I want her to punish the people who try to make Linda Tripp's looks the issue to avoid noticing Bill Clinton pissed away forty million dollars making the justice department prove his perjury.
In short, I want her to point out the emperor has no clothes no matter who it embarrasses.
In other words, you don't care if she plays into the stereotype of conservatives being mean-spirited and hateful, because you feel that by being obnoxious, she's serving a useful purpose. Do I understand what you are saying?