You advocate a minority position AND your argument like a willow attempting to stand up to the force of a hurricane must necessarily bend to the reality recognized and detailed in tradition, conventional wisdom, common law and enacted law.
If you wish to disengage from reality and renounce your marital priveleges and accomodation then do so and shut up about it -get a divorce... Do not think that others must follow the few lemmings that choose a cliff bound existence...