I have been married to a wonderful man for 23 years and we have 3 children together. He is my second husband. My first husband and I were divorced when our son was 4 years old.
I think what helped to make my second marriage successful was that my first husband raised my oldest child. Sons need fathers. My son is now 36. He is a devoted husband and father of 5.Other women thought I was an unnatural mother to leave my son with his father, but I knew in my heart that his father would be very important to him in the long run.
Thank you. Thank you so much, for dads everywhere.
When Divorce comes, if it must, I think it is critical dads stay in their children's lives, and custody with dad is preferred for boys, if all other considerations are equal. Boys need their dad as a role model, and if he's a decent one, that will teach his son better than anything how to be a man.
My boys are dedicated monogomists because they learned that as the norm.