Posted on 05/21/2006 11:55:33 AM PDT by Extremely Extreme Extremist
No, what never ceases to amaze me is how raising kids with a mother and a father is somehow narrow-minded and bigoted.
I fail to see any modicum of reason in your thinking...
If a woman really wants a child and doesn't want a husband, she shouldn't have a child.
Since when is "I want it really bad!" a good reason to do anything? So our wants and desires should dictate our actions, whether the results of fulfilling (or trying to fulfill) those desires may harm or be bad for someone else?
IOW, all those ads that say "Serve Yourself First", "You're Number One", "You Deserve It" are today's Golden Rule.
Amen to that...
If a woman really wants a child and doesn't want a husband, she shouldn't have a child.
Since when is "I want it really bad!" a good reason to do anything? So our wants and desires should dictate our actions, whether the results of fulfilling (or trying to fulfill) those desires may harm or be bad for someone else?
IOW, all those ads that say "Serve Yourself First", "You're Number One", "You Deserve It" are today's Golden Rule.
They should just go to the local mall and pick up one of the "free range" ones you always see wandering around...
(it's a joke, a joke)
Amen!!
Clearly, this is the result of the Clinton legacy coupled with a severe ignoring of moral decency.
Having a mother and father is a basic premise that has existed since the first creatures roamed the Earth. And it has not only served the planet, but humanity well.
Bottom line--if it ain't broken, don't try to futz with it...
I had a few coworkers who donated to sperm banks while they were in college, and judging by some of their other antics, it's not a surprise.
PHEW! I just wanted to check. I had to ask because I know there are those would propose what you said.
I personally don't believe others are being as absolutist as you do, and I'm sure you've been freeping long enough to know your statement regarding absolutists is absolutist in itself ;o)
While I recognize there are exceptions to rules, it is irresponsible to ignore the "rules" wholesale. I would also council a single, pregnant, rape victim to put the child up for adoption apart from extraordinary mitigating circumstances such as engagement, or vast personal resources.
My brother turned out the be an extraordinarily successful, family man, but that is in no small part due to his upbringing by a "greatest generation" family.
In my own life, as a waiting adoptive parent, I have quite a bit of contact with others who have adopted in similar circumstances, and I am continually amazed by the children I see. They are better behaved and outwardly happier and more secure than any other group of children I have ever seen...bar none. I can only attribute such uniformity of outcome to the extremely rigid vetting process done on us before we are permitted to adopt from our children's country of birth.
Trust me on this: once you see the results of children raised in "nuclear families" and you KNOW there are no family skeletons or pathologies, you gain a new appreciation for the traditional model.
"No, what never ceases to amaze me is how raising kids with a mother and a father is somehow narrow-minded and bigoted."
I never said that.
I can't believe the feminist moral relativist garbage people are sucking down. And spewing out. Moral relativists are the most hardcore of absolutists - they cry out against "judgementalism" while judging those who disagree with them in the harshest terms. Unbelievable that they can't see that their own beliefs cancel each other out. They only see what they want to see, to support the worldview they cling to.
It has to do with the moral absolutists. They crack me up.
Personally, I like people -- at least in theory -- flaws and all. We're all flawed creatures, which is one of the things that makes us endlessly fascinating. Moral absolutists miss this point.
They are, in short, the kind of people who inspire me to show up at family gatherings in a torn suit, a 23 year old stripper, waving half a bottle of Remy around in the air.
Then you're the exception, not the rule.
Kids need a father.
Judging from that post and the tone of your postings on this thread, that's the impression I get--right or wrong.
Often, it's not just in the words that hit the thread, but how they come across to everyone on the thread--lurkers and posters alike.
A woman who adopts a child while single makes a decision to care for a child who has no chance at the best case scenario.
Please tell me, how many of us have lived in the 'best case scenario'? You make it sound as if you do not live in the best case scenario, you should have no children what so ever. If so, you've just condemned half of freerepublic.
Tell me, would you have more sympathy for a single woman who sleeps around, gets pregnant, and keeps her child (whether or not she can financially support it) than a single woman who makes a conscious decision to have a child she knows she can support and love?
Just imagine the end result if this type of baby-making continues (and increases) for a few hundred years.
Spooky.
Amicably. Does that include love? Or is it just a business arrangement to you? You know, children are pretty smart and know when their parents don't love each other. Would you rather a child see that?
Thank you for this post.
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