I do agree with you, about getting a diagnosis correct, whether its a diagnosis regarding mental illness or physical illness, the diagnosis needs to be so very correct, so that the treatment is effective, and a possible cure are attainable...
For so long, people thought nothing of it, when someone went to a doctor for a physical illness or physical problem...but let that same person see a doctor for a mental illness, or a mental problem, and bam, they are labeled as a 'whacko', or 'nuts', or some such other nasty word....and for so many people, they would have rathered suffered with their mental illness, than face being made fun of for seeing a mental health specialist...and thats just plain sad...
Thankfully today, people have progressed to the point, where they realize that seeing a psychiatrist, may be the best thing in the world for someone, who actually needs that type of health...tho there are still those out there, who think anyone who sees a psychiatrist deserve scorn...
I was diagnosed as being severely clinically depressed after my older son died...that diagnosis came one year after he had died...for the whole year after he died, I struggled along, trying to be a mother to my younger son, trying to be a good wife to my husband...but I could feel myself, slowly going downhill, to where I did not know...
Eventually my husband, along with a fine friend, saw me in such a sorry state, that they took me to the emergency room of our local hospital, and within 5 minutes a psychiatrist talked to me for about 1/2 hours, and he advised me to check myself into the psychiatric unit...best advice I ever got...with therapy, with proper meds, with group counseling, with support group interaction, I believe my life was saved...otherwise, I dont know what would have happened to me...I just could not face life without my son...
Now, tho I still grieve, I am no longer the wreck I was...I have learned to live with my grief, have learned not to let grief and depression ruin my life....
I guess my point in telling this story(sorry if it bored anyone), is that proper diagnosis, and proper treatment, for any illness, mental or physical is a blessing of our modern medicine...at least to me..
I am truly sorry for your loss.
Your experiences in coping should be a model for others.