I had the same experience. I thought the Kel Tec P-3AT/.380 would be great for her. It fit her hand, but she didn't like the recoil. So, now I have another gun for my collection, which isn't so bad. :-)
I bought a P-3AT and I like it. I've done the "fluff and buff" on it and polished the feed ramp.
My latest acquisition is a SigArms P239 SAS. Unfortunately I haven't had a chance to fire it because the only firing range in Panama City shut down about six months ago and all the places I used to shoot are private property now.
If anyone knows of a place to shoot within 40 miles of Panama City I would really appreciate the tip.