I'm sure that is universal. And women apologize for it! I had a friend who grieved after what she thought was a pregnancy turned out to be false - she really felt a loss (and who knows? maybe a soul was really trying to enter the world - I don't dismiss intuition).
The solace was/is that virtually every early pregnancy loss is due to genetic deformities rightly called "incompatible with life."
Of course - the death of a "real child" is a gut-wrenching thing to go through.
Which is worlds away from intentionally ending a life before birth because of money or relationship problems. And one reason - beides some pretty impressive poor-ness in my own history - that I fight abortion and try to make a difference with tangible help, crochet for the crisis pregnancy center, teaching abstinence in the schools, etc.
God bless you!
Ziggy,
Every child is a "real child." But, as one of my instructors who is a Christian ethicist puts it, the burden (pain and suffering) can be so great that there is no way to bear it. How do you relieve suffering if there is and never will be an ability to understand it? Or even when the cortical "wiring" is not there to mediate and mask it, as in a more mature child?
In these cases, non-intervention is the best "action."
However (and again and again), intentional elective abortion is the intervention to *cause* death, without medical necessity.