If you do love someone, of course you want them to be happy. And there is no reason to treat a woman like dirt, either, in order to be masculine.
A woman most likely than not can't be sexually excited by a man who she percieves as weak or needy. If a man presents himself as weak or needy
There is simply no need to be a caveman or a jerk. There is a whole range of conduct between being needy and being jerky. The best place for a man to be is between those poles, and that's where most women want a man to be, also.
Refusing to act like a jerk is fine, but if a man conducts himself in a way that a woman will percived (rightly or wrongly) as weak or needy, she will rightly reject him. Most women will reject him. That's a good thing.
The dirty truth is that most women don't reject men on shallow reasons, but on substantive ones.
A woman most likely than not can't be sexually excited by a man who she percieves as weak or needy. If a man presents himself as weak or needy.
Very true. That's what I'm geting at. And being nice, caring, and thoughtful comes across as being weak. Being a jerk or a caveman comes across as masculine and strong.
IMHO, real strength doesn't have to dress itself up and play pretend games. So, if I love someone, I'm going to tell them. If I love someone, I'm going to look after them to the best of my ability within the boundaries of the relationship. I ain't going to treat them like a piece of crap, even if that's what it takes to turn most of them on.
parsy, who has the strength to be himself.