My sister married a frenchman, and his parents invited our parents for a visit in the south of france. Our father is not jewish, our mother is, and we were not raised with any sense of who we were, so our jewishness was always kind of an afterthought. The french in-laws made a reservation for my parents at a bed and breakfast type place under my father's name (Hart). When my parents arrived, the consierge took a close look at my mother and told my sister (who was the only one who spoke french fluently)that while my father could stay, "the jewess" had to leave, that "her kind" were not welcome.
This was quite an eye opener for us. My sister goes to france every year to visit her in-laws, and though in appearance we take after our father, I fear for her. Being American is also not safe.
"The jewess"?? When did this happen? I haven't heard that type of terminology in eons, and they were usually books or old movies about WWII. It must be hard for your sister. Being Jewish and American is not good when you are a tourist in Europe.
I remember wanting to visit Ireland. I gave that up after 9/11. Even if I had the money, no way would I go to a foreign country.