I have an active duty family member and ultimate success or failure in Iraq will have little reflection on him and his brothers in arms.
Your statement is foolish because it is wrong.
My nephew's words in an email reflect the words of his brothers, "We can not fail. If we fail in Iraq, we're failures. Since we are not failing, we are not failures. And you can take that to the bank. Tell the folks back home causing trouble to grow a spine."
You let me know when a soldier says, "If we fail, it's o.k. I can still hold my head high."