"Very wordy, but missing the point."
I've repeatedly repeated the point and you complain about the repetition.
"Self-defense isn't homicide, "
Self-defense can be homicide. (When you made your "fiery vengeance" comment, it didn't occur to me that you meant lashing with a wet noodle dipped in hot sauce.) Homicide is the killing of one human being by another. If one human being kills another in self-defense that's excusable homicide. To me, you seem more inclined to murder.
"the medieval custom (which is in fact far more ancient than that)"
I already knew that. I didn't think you knew anything about it based on your hillbilly comment.
s/homicide/murder/
I didn't think you knew anything about it based on your hillbilly comment.
You now claim your family would be avenging your murder. But since you were killed in self-defense, there's no murder to avenge. You're confused.