You unintentionally raise a good point. My wife would be MISERABLE staying at home with our son; she has said so herself...she would get stir crazy and lonely. Nothing harms a child more than a persistently and visibly unhappy parent.
Yes no one wants an unhappy parent. But want about the unhappy child. When you buy a house and car you have to take care of it. Why does no one HAVE TO take care of a child?
Your wife shouldn't have had a child if she wasn't prepared to take care of said child. Pathetic!
My husband and I KNOW them as well as any other human being on earth. We know their weaknesses and their strengths. We've learned to face and accept our own weakness and strengths and work to make progress.
Most of all, we've come to understand that our children are our greatest task, and our only lasting contribution to this world. I want to know, even if things do not turn out the way I hope and pray, that I did everything in my power to make that legacy something that makes the world a better place for YOUR children, as well as my own.
So, I'm going to disagree with you and say that you are denying yourself the greatest opportunity in life. You are making an excuse. Nothing harms a child more, than believing that his parents "feelings" and "comfort" are more important than his well being. I realize it is harsh. But I don't say that because of some sort of cold perfectionist driven ideal. I say it because I want you to know that satisfaction may not be what you feel while you are going through something, but what you feel when the task is completed.
I wish you every success, and all the happiness in the world. And your son as well.
No. Nothing harms a child more than a petulant and self-absorbed parent.
My wife would be MISERABLE staying at home with our son;
Wow. I wonder if you realize how sad that statement actually sounds. As a husband, aren't you offended/hurt that your wife is made miserable by being around your own child? I consider it an extension of my love for my husband that I love, care for and educate OUR children. If I rejected raising our children, I can't help but think he would feel, in some part, rejected himself. He would also be wondering why we had a family in the first place. Did she not want a child or did she just think she would feel differently? It can be hard, lonely and even frustrating work staying home with babies and young children, but the time is actually short in the grand scheme of things and very well spent in the end.