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I'm glad. And I don't doubt your assertions in the slightest and completely agree that one size does not fit all. That includes child care situations as well.

My comments are mostly directed at the concept of "happy." I think it has been really screwed up by our society. Happiness is not about feeling good all the time. So my button is the Oprahization of women, the inability of women to sacrifice even a moment of their "comfort and happiness" for someone else...can you tell? Women are being told that "uncomfortable" is equal to suppression. What kind of message is that? That you should never sacrifice for another human being? That demeans women, and it demeans society. It also sets each and every one of us up to be on a constant search for that elusive life of painless existence. But when most people find it, they find themselves empty and dissatisfied because they didn't understand the nature of happiness in the first place.

I think "effective" is the key word. It sounds like you are more effective parents this way. THAT I respect. Whatever makes a person "happy" right at this minute doesn't. I have a feeling we completely agree on this and I just let my buttons get pushed.

Anyway, I am thrilled to have effective, conscientious parents who make all kinds of decisions, but whose goal is to produce good human beings that my kids will share this world with.