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A friend of mine of more than 40 years "came out" as a teenager and thought he was having a ball and I suppose he was for a few years. He moved out to LA and sold mens' clothing and learned about antiques and, yes, decorating. He had many permanent committed relationships, some lasting more than a month. When he came back to Florida for awhile in the 80s he was grim and did not speak much though he had been raucous and voluble as a youth.

A few years later Dom returned again for good. He had resolved to be celibate the rest of his life. He had utterly wearied of the crazy life and found there was no other available to him in that milieu. He had seen too many die of AIDS or lose their health to multible other diseases; too many suicides. He told me everybody over 30 knows one person who has killed himself. Dom knew nine. He had been raised as an atheist rationalist so he had no church to come back to. He is not pathetic as he has developed a social life of sorts. His friends are mostly women though he says he could never imagine going to bed with ne of them- it would be like homosexual or something. He shuns homosexual men and doesn't trust lesbians.He feels he wasted his life but at least doesn't think he has to ride that particular beast all the way into the ground.

He had many permanent committed relationships, some lasting more than a month.

I dont know, but to me, having sex with just one person for a month really doesn't qualify as a committed relationship. Just a long tryst, until you get bored.

PERMANENT and COMMITTED suggest a long involved time frame.