I know how you feel. I've had to reject a few names because they didn't go with the last name. How wonderful that your girl chose her Grandma's name for confirmation : )
Your cousin missed out, and it's sad when people talk about a departed loved one, and you feel a little out the loop. I'm sure your Grandma looks out over each and every one of you, though. 26 cousins? Are you Irish? I have 27 first cousins : )
No, Czech. LOL. Yes, I'm sure she does look after each of us. I am one of six and have 20 first cousins on that side of the family alone. I don't even know how many I have on my Dad's side, he was adopted. He found the rest of his family after I had already married and had my own, but I think it is a lot. He had 5 full siblings, and 12 half-siblings (same father, 3 mothers, the original dead-beat dad). God bless my Dad. He passed away 3 years ago in a few days.