That's right. If she stays at home to care for the kids, scrub the toilets, get a hot dinner on the table by 6 every night, and move all over the US in support of her husband's career, she's a leech. If she has a career she's a feminist lib and is, as you say, neglecting the children and her husband.
. . .the most vicious woman-hater on FR (and unfortunately, there are a lot of them,). . .Have some compassion, for crying out loud.
Sorry, Nea, your assessment is accurate: a lot of them are vicious woman-haters, and as such they are devoid of compassion for females.
For those who expect a 67-year-old woman to maintain current job skills, I'd like to ask how she is supposed to fit that little activity into a day that involves taking care of a house, a husband, and FIVE children. That's more than a full-time job and it often goes on until late at night, seven days a week. So she finally gets the last child raised, maybe ten years ago, and she's supposed to go back to work at the age of 55 or so on grounds that her husband might at some point have an affair and dump her? Most women who were not paranoid would not guess that a husband to whom they had been devoted for many years would simply ambush them with divorce papers and that they'd need to prepare for that possibility.
I would imagine that by age 67, the lady's children have left the house....just wanted to remind every-one of that point!