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FWIW, I'm glad you're here. My history is old south. My parents and grandparents considered blacks to be more servants than equals. That was wrong I know. But at least they went out of their way to provide for them.

OTOH my wife's parents (also old south) took up the gauntlet of civil rights in the fifties. My wife tells me of the phone calls she would answer as a child: "n####r lover" SLAM!

It was an ugly time.

In the last 20 years I have been to a dozen funerals at what are still "black" churches in Georgia. Some of those funerals were for people who worked for my family for years, people I have worked for, with and had work for me, and dozens of black people who I would jump in front of a freight train for.

Some of us are without race now. Would I want my daughter to marry a black man? For her happiness and peace, of course. But I am like anyone else, I want my grandchildren to look like me. You probably do too. One of these days we may not even consider that but today we do.

Anyway. I am glad you're her and I appreciate your opinion.

I think most parents desire their cultural heritage to remain intact through their descendants....vanity perhaps but that sentiment is the rule throughout nearly the entire world.

Only in the West is it considered racist. Elsewhere it's considered quite appropriate and some religious identity cultures go to great lengths to protect their continuity and it shows....in my opinion.

That is not to say that those who choose otherwise are wrong or less for it, but the exceptions do not make the rule no matter how much some freepers wish otherwise.

But I am like anyone else, I want my grandchildren to look like me.

Interesting. How deep does this desire for resemblance go? Would it disturb you if your grandchildren had different hair or eye color than you, or is this solely limited to pigment?