Then your parents simply don't love you. Sorry to be so blunt, but it's true, and they are unworthy of any loyalty you might have toward them.
They believe that they love me perfectly.
[I believe they loved the status quo more]
Blunt's fine.
I suspected as such a very long time ago.
Sadly, I take the "honor thy mother and father" thing too seriously.
Hubby constantly tells me that respect and honor are earned, not automtically awarded.
I'm learning....:)