I'm sorry you're incapable of seeing the difference. There is nothing I can do for someone who is either incapable of or unwilling to learn. Now go away.
You know you really should read "Odd Girl Out" by Rachel Simmons. You are a textbook case for the 'alternative aggression' used by girls on the schoolyard.
It may not do anything to help you grow out of your petulance, but it might teach you how to obscure it better.