The problem here is that I have yet to hear "Well, one time my child started getting out of control and this is what I did to reel him back in..."
All I hear is "My kids are well behaved where ever we go..." etc.
Like I said, FR is a gold mine for perfect parents and perfect kids. Obviously the rest of us are horrible parents because are kids don't always go by the rules.
if you don't see the problems out there with children leading their parents around by the nose and calling the shots in the parent-child relationships, i can't help you. THAT Is what is being discussed here. you say your kids behave in public, so why are you being defensive?
See posts: #15, #17, #43, #44, #49, #107, #109, #111, #114, #124, #140, #141, #143, #143, #154.. Well, you get the idea. Lots of people suggested ways to control or train out of control kids. Of course, if one hasn't started off on the right foot and has let the child get the idea they're in charge, the task will be more difficult, but it's still possible.
I suspect if you really want parenting advice, there are many excellent parents right here on FR who will be glad to give it to you in love and all sincerity.
susie
Then you haven't read the whole thread....plenty of practical "this is how i handle it" posts.....