I hear the pitter patter of little feet and don't have the time to delve into this thread, but this line caught my eye. The vast majority of people I know don't talk about their sexuality at all, at least not with me; it's not an issue.
I know three or four gay people well enough to speak to. Since there are perhaps couple of hundred people I'm on a casual speaking basis with, I know gay people in approximately their random statistical distribution in the general population. They are the only people I know who might have spent any time questioning it, but again, it's not something we discuss.
You sound like a very reasonable person and I'm not trying to pick an argument, but when you start generalizing about sexual confusion on the part of the vast majority of your acquaintences, my reaction is that either you move in some pretty strange circles or you are spending too much time obsessing about sex.
Or . . .
Maybe I took sex ed? Or a class in Human sexuality? Or maybe I'm not afraid to ask my friends questions in the course of child rearing (as in, discussing that resource list that is on the Girls Inc site with friends and getting their opinion)?
I am a full time college student, and I'm finding that the generation that is there "now" -- ie the early 20 somethings -- are extremely open about these issues. We've been talking about it in classes. These girls HAD American Girl dolls. Most of them are pretty disgusted by the boycott.
So no, not a strange circle, nor am I obsessed with sex (although there is absolutely nothing wrong with enjoying it -- but I know some people think there is but let's not go there either). It's that the fundamentalist Christians keep bringing the whole boycott issue up, and therefore it's out there currently.