That's why I'm saying living wills are far more dangerous than they are helpful. They cloud the issues more than they solve them.
My family is lucky that Dad showed us from his own example. He was totally against them. Whether it was mandated or not isn't the issue about the health care workers asking him. They positively harassed him about them. I'm not suggesting that this happens every time, but when my Dad was adament, he meant what he said, and those people just didn't get it.
I'm sorry if this offends you, but that's the way it was for us.