Dude, I worked for the Republicans when I lived in Arkansas, and again in GA in 2000. Might be some good people working for the party, but not among the folks running it. The folks in charge are power mongers pure and simple, and ain't interested in hearin' what you have to say. Their response is similar to yours - party first and "where else ya gonna go?" Just do the work, give 'em money and shut up.
Well, the answer is, I'll go home. Gridlock is more desirable than the current state of affairs and the Republicans seem to pay more attention to their conservative base when they're out of power. In the mean time, to hell with 'em. If the party doesn't stick to principle, it ain't my party.
I've never said anything close to "where else you gonna go", so as far as listening to what people have to say, you're not doing much better than those you seem to despise.
You need to discuss the things that I actually said; don't put words in my mouth then tell me how wrong I am for having said something I never said.
My point is that you can't change or impact the Party to come around to your way by leaving it...period. The more that the right wing diminishes by their departure, the more the Party will move to the center to fill its ranks.