[grellis]

It seems as if you are shooing women away from men who will not want to give up the bar scene and "playing the field." In my experience, that is a very small percentage of men, and a woman need not be overly savvy to spot him.

I can't think of anything that I (or my hub) "gave up" when we got married, apart from forsaking all others, which we willingly gave up.

[AppyPappy]

You don't understand. A man has to give up his life for the marriage. That means he doesn't buy a bass boat instead of school supplies just because he wants a bass boat. He doesn't spend nights and weekends working on his race car instead of spending time with his wife and family. He doesn't hang out with his crumb bachelor friends so they won't accuse him of being "whipped". That's what we did as bachelors. That behavior has to die.

Men have a VERY hard time with this. They think their pride should come before the marriage. The man should emulate what Christ did for the church. Jesus didn't exactly give up a night of bowling for the church.