Years ago, I had a female manager, who I knew to be a brown belt in judo, threaten to beat the crap out of me. She said this half jokingly. I think she was on a power trip and wanted to see if she could intimidate me My response to her was that I would treat a female martial artist who initiated violence exactly the same as I would treat a man who initiated violence against me -- namely that I would pick up the nearest chair and smash it across her face. She was somewhat taken aback, and did not threaten me againIf she was joking around, like you said, I think it was rather crude of you to tell her you were going to smash a chair across her face. You were the one who was being threatening in that situation, not her.