News flash: Women look for security from a man. Its a positive characteristic. Security includes the monetary means by which he can provide for her.
If you are indeed basing your 'security' on mere monetary means by which 'he can provide for (you)', then I am deeply saddened to inform you that you are going to be a very, very disappointed female in years to come.
Security can be felt when you can handle any situation that the universe throws at you and not only roll with the punches but take the ball and run with it. My now gone S.O. appreciated that most, but not only did she admire how effectively I managed to do that, she loved that I could also take care of Myself in an altercation and told Me more than once that she felt safer with Me than if she had a Rottweiler on a leash with her. I was still a simple Tech back then, but I was also a belted Martial Artist, a Bodybuilder, and a Biker. Still got the scoot; '74 Sportster with a six inch overstock front end and dual stacked headlights.
Blokes with the gold watches and expensive cars I just found incredibly amusing, and on ANY match-up they knew they came up on the losing side. Sometimes all I would have to do was simply smile in their general direction and they suddenly seemed to have important business elsewhere. *grin*