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Lets think of this womans life as a port. ( igore the sexual conotation here) there are many ships that would like to pull into that port, sometimes there is no room, some times the harbor master says get the hell out of here, some times there appears to be a plague flag flying over the dock,and sometimes in years before good ships came but the harbor seem to ignore these and wanted only the Pirates ( bad boys) in port. How many good clean respectable ships ( good guys ) did you pass up because you wanted the rebel? There is no room to complain that all you have now is a drydock. ( Okay , I cant help it the metaphor is just going this way)

There needs to be made a reason for that ship to stay in port. A ship brings good things into that port, a port brings good things for a ship. If the ship is there to just dump his load (another sexual conotation) he will and go for the next port. If there is a berth that offers all sorts of incentives the ship will stay.

If ther is a port that seems to be full all the time ( with other interests) good ships are going to find a home port elsewhere and not wait around for a tug boat to pull them in.

I know far far to many women that are in their late 20s and mid 30's that bitch and complain about not finding a man when I know they had great opprotunities to be married early on but rejected that person because of their "career" or more often they married the right guy and went through a mid life crisis between 27 and 34. Almost always generated by some girlfriend of theirs that just got divorced and now wants a friend to go around the bars with her. So she then begins to tell that girl how miserable she is in her marriage. All the sudden she now sees all the bad in her marriage and thinks being single will give her this sexy life. Divorce happens and then 18 months later she is writing into dear abby saying how hard it is to meet men. When it was far far easier for her to have maintained the relation she had.