I think I understand.
My wife says one thing she likes about me is I never "gave up my power" whatever the hell that means.
I've always called myself a "good guy," then quickly add "good" doesn't mean "nice."
Ultimate example: the stereotypical man who sleeps on the couch after having an argument with his wife.
Early example: ten minutes before he is scheduled to meet her for a date, she calls up and cancels with a flimsy excuse. He tells her with a weak little laugh, "Oh, that's all right...we'll do it again some other time," instead of, "You know, I expect people to follow through on their commitments. Call me some time when you think you are able to do that."
Men are too often willing to take unlimited amounts of BS from women they are attracted to - and women sometimes do the same from men they are attracted to. The difference is that women will very seldom give away all of their power to a man they just met ten seconds ago, whereas men do this with beautiful women all the time.
If both men and women start out with and maintain zero tolerance for BS and flaky behavior, both keep their power and the relationship that results is a lot happier.
Yep. :-)