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Basically, it's one thing to win over a a person of the opposite sex, and another to keep them.

The secret to keeping them is easier than the secret to winning them over. Basically, behave in a way that makes them want to stay with you. The secret to winning them is related to that, but includes a lot more, and the guidelines for women are a lot different than the guidelines for men.

The thing with very successful women is that they have severe career related time demands. Basically, us men like to have our women around: it's one thing if we have time demands, women are expected to tolerate it. Most men have no interest in humoring crazy time demands of his woman, though.

Working late at the office 6x a week? Ordering out dinner at the firm again to work on a Summary Judgment motion all night, the one that your bosses will not be pleased with anyway? And who do you think is going to hear all about it - the boss or the boyfriend? Going to White Plains, NY for a 10 week trial with the case team? Most men have no interest in having an absentee mate.

Here's the wrinkle: many women find power and success attractive in a man and have the maturity to realize that that necessarily includes some career related time commitments. They can handle that. Men don't find power and success nearly as attractive in a woman, so they have no upside to dealing with those time commitments.

I never understood why so many women were displeased with this dynamic. They get to have and enjoy the career they always wanted and find success. A lot of us men get to keep them alone and date more compatible women. Everyone should be happy.