A suggestion. Take a month's vacation. Go to Viet Nam. Hang around a smaller town and just walk or sit in the coffee gardens. You will meet mostly young women because the guys are all out working their butts off to make their $1.45 a day. Talk to the ladies who will talk to you, even if it is with the Eng-Vt and Vt-Eng dictionaries you carry in your pocket. Make it explicit that you are not "looking for a woman." Pick out one of the more intelligent ones- there will be few who are dumb- and make a marriage deal. It is complicated and some expense to get her home but you will have a Wife who will not head for the divorce court as soon as she has citizenship and your wealth. She is bright and can probably run a business but she will not presume to run you. You will be the center of her life. And if you need a decoration, well, she is Vietnamese-what more could you ask? Viet Nam has just the right overlay of modern expectations and education on a traditional society. Don't wait too long. This conjunction is fragile and will not last too many more years.
I should explain a touch further what I am looking for...while in theory, what you're saying sounds reasonable, what I am hoping for is a moment: when my father met my mother, he had instant knowledge that this was the person he would spend his life with. The same holds true for my grandparents. I've seen other couples to whom this knowledge came. And while there are obvious hiccups down the road to love, this knowledge was correct.
I would gladly travel to Vietnam if I thought I would experience that. I would not travel as someone merely "sizing up" a bride.
Regards, Ivan
WTF?