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I'm an attorney, drive a cute little BMW and when guys find out they totally shut me out. The Bimmer is the only thing I have in the world that's a sign of wealth- it's my dream car and it's not new.

O.K., I'll say it straight out. If I were single, I would be running in the opposite direction too.

Let's analyze the situation from my own personal point of view.

So, you have worked hard, have gotten a good education and have a high earning potential. No problems there.

From the photo in your home page, you're awfully cute. No problems there.

You drive a vintage BMW. No problems there.

You are an attorney and you advertise the fact on your car's vanity license plate. BIG PROBLEM!.

A large percentage of American marriages end in divorce. That's just the way it is nowadays. As it is, the legalities of marriage are already stacked against the man. No matter what a man does or does not do, if the marriage ever goes on the rocks, he will lose his house, he will lose at least 50% of everything he ever earned, he will probably lose his kids and he will be paying alimony for quite a while..........Oh, and don't forget the legal fees which the man will pay, both his and hers.

And all of that is with the average woman with the average divorce attorney.

"Now, if it ever comes to that", the man imagines, "what would happen to me in the divorce court system if my wife were an attorney representing herself pro bono for as long as she wants to go after me?"

Why would any sane man, other than a male attorney with the ego to think he can compete with you in divorce court, ever put himself in such a potential situation?

My advice to you would be to initially keep your attorney status on low profile.

Don't scare them off before they have a chance to get to know you.

Lose the "LawGirl" vanity plate. If there is one thing that scares off people more than lawyers, it is lawyers that go out of their way to tell everyone they are lawyers.

"But", you said on another post, "you can't penalize a woman for being an attorney."

Well, actually, you can. In social situations, you can penalize anybody for any reason you please.

Life ain't fair.

Right know, I think that men are been scared off by your advertised attorney status before they ever get to know you. You can say you are in "consumer affairs" and not go into details. Try keeping occupations totally in the background for a few dates so men can actually get to know you before they are hit with the Attorney Panic.

Apackof2, you said : "Ya know LawGirl I am on your side because we are in this together! But I think Polybius makes some good points here that are worth considering"

OK I am going to reply to two posts at once with this one LOL!

Polybius, thanks for your input. The funny thing about those plates- I had put down "lawgirl" as my insider Freeper reference on my plates application not expecting to get it- I actually had 4 other possibilities that I expected to get. I know that's neither here nor there, but there it is. :) I think it might make people drive more carefully around me too! LOL!

The other more funny thing about your post to me Polybius is how the internet does not reflect real life. Actually, I keep my status as an attorney on the low down in real life- most people do not find out I am an attorney until they've known me awhile. (After all, how many people do you really know what they drive? hehe) I actually had a woman I work with for over a year just find out I was an attorney and she was floored. (I consider that a compliment!) And as far as the divorce courts go- outside of child issues I disagree with you. You should ask my ex-husband who decided to leave me--I did all of his paperwork for him even though I did not want the divorce. Not all women and not all lawyers are sharks. He is getting a very sweet deal in the whole thing.