[Age of Reason]

On third thought:

First on your list of desirable qualities should be having been raised in a wholesome family environment with sane family relationships all around.

The women I've known who were not so raised, were nothing be trouble.

There may be an exception to this rule--as to any rule--but coming from a screwed-up family is a danger sign.

And the added benefit is you get nice people for in laws.

[fqued]

old adage: a woman grows to be like her mother; so take a good look at her mother before you commit.

I think there is some truth in this, though it is not universal. It goes to your comment about looking to see if a potential spouse was raised in a sane family.