I think that is the crux of it, really. I just do not know how to put it to her in the right way that I am simply not interested even if she thinks she is ready for more. It is not all about her, and the fact that she abruptly decided that 'freedom' was more important to her not that long ago tells Me all I need to know about her character in full and that she will in all probability not be willing to stick it out for the long run. Why would I wish to pursue a path with an unreachable destination?
GMTA. I told my wife, many moons ago, "don't expect me to participate in a game (contest of wills) I can't win, because you get to change the rules."
Bless her lovely heart, she abides by it.