I can't believe I'm being faulted for actually considering how many babies I can pop out and if I can afford all of them.
It would seem obvious to me that people would discuss precisely this before they got married. How can you discuss something rationally unless you have considered it?
I won't fault you, but I don't see anything to praise either. What you're saying is that if a man whose mind you otherwise love suddenly loses his job, he's not such an appealing person anymore.
You have your reasons, but they don't really involve the man's feelings, and I think that's what bothered Utilizer.
You specifically stated that your choice to marry was made with the consideration of how much money a month your spouse was capable of providing. Would you be as understanding if the reverse were true and you knew YOU were being evaluated in such a manner? Or, how about finding out that you were selected for what physical attributes you were capable of proffering in exchange for the wedding vows? Plus NO income is guaranteed, so yes I believe that such a blatently mercenary consideration is a firm indicator that such a one remaining in the relationship will always be a conditional situation and not considered to be the traditional long-run affair should the expected financial rewards diminish over time.