Posted on 09/17/2005 6:59:48 AM PDT by teldon30
Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?
Deluxe Chopped Liver
Dear Deluxe: To scare away vampires, it takes garlic and crosses, which make ugly bulges in sleek, satin evening bags. Luckily, all you have to do to scare away men is pull out a business card that says ''senior vice president.''
''Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac,'' said Henry Kissinger. Sure it is unless you're a woman. Research by Stephanie L. Brown and Brian P. Lewis, published in Evolution and Human Behavior (Nov. '04), seems to confirm what many lonely women at the top already know: When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started.
Sure, plenty of men will scamper up the corporate ladder for a one-night stand. But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses. The researchers hypothesize that men evolved to want women they can control as a means of guarding against ''parental uncertainty'' unwittingly raising kids fathered by the Neanderthal next door as their own. Brown and Lewis think this may also explain why men are suckers for ''behavioral expressions of vulnerability'' women who act like they might not be able to make it across the street
(Excerpt) Read more at mcall.com ...
Your reply is really condensening which speak volumnes about your argument!
My personal observations about REAL LIFE are just as worthwhile as your sterile "documented" so called facts
Try experiencing real relationships instead of just reading about them
No, although you can glean a lot from it. You can clearly understand my point, and you proved it. Your choice to own and take the care to modify a vintage '69 Cougar says something about you as a person. The way you're going on about it's performance does too. It's not a car everyone would chose. Why are there muscle car lovers? Street rod lovers? Off-roaders? Monster trucks? I'm sure you see where I'm going...vehicle choices and interests are as much an extension of a person as their choices in clothes, sports, music, reading, recreation. Otherwise the car companies are sending billions of dollars down the toilet with their market research, color and style research, advertising campaigns, etc. They make a science of appealing to their target markets.
Of course I do realize that sometimes people are driving a car that they aren't very jazzed about for one reason or another. But as soon as you ask them about their car, they usually tell you what they wish they were driving. Like me...I wish my Subaru Outback Sport was a '69 GTO. Likely that will never happen, but the next Subaru will at least be a WRX. Like you, I have a thing for performance.
long before the term MILF came into being and before Desperate Housewives, Kris Kristofferson had a song about this... Older women are Beautiful Lovers...
Bingo. Unfortunately, todays society not only fosters such an outlook from females, it actively encourages it and disparages those women who have heeded natures intent and concentrated upon raising a family instead of competing with men in everything under the sun.
Oh come on now, you don't really believe that do you?!
Looking for a car enthusiast, go to car show, or go to the race track.. The girl that shuts you down out of the tree might be a good mate...
Not me!
I really need a man to take out the garbage!
Just kidding
That's definitely OT. This is more like it:
LV has the most beautiful women, per capita, than any other place I've seen, anywhere. Hands down. IMHO.
"But after he got slapped with the second sexual harassment complaint, he'd stop looking for her in any place even remotely tangentially related to work."
That is exactly my position. This includes any women employed as engineers and techs, as well as any women employed by even potential clients, suppliers, and competitors. Add to that (thanks to a past political situation in US Cycling Federation) any athletes. Ooops she ran the Twin Cities Marathon? She's ruled out.
bump for later reading.
I chose that car deliberately; the appearance was intended to make those of a more mercenary mindset write Me off as not being 'rich enough' for them, and I had many occasions to savor their faces when they saw it, lol. Especially when I KNEW that that car was meaner and tougher than anything they could possibly imagine save the most expensive and top-end vehicles. And bloody few of those! It had a custom-designed alarm system and you could not even open the door unless you knew exactly where to press to enguage the mechanism. As a self-taught engineer (I started out as a simple Electronics Technician) I designed it Myself, and although you might be able to break a window to enter it, even if you somehow managed to figure out the starting sequence it had an automatic default of twenty seconds before the engine cut out and everything froze. The engine was radically redesigned to take a petrol/water mix under intense pressure with a gigantic aspiration mechanism and huge exhaust, and the level of horsepower/petrol ingestion was dynamically controlled during operation. Lol. I know, more than you probably wished to hear, but again; what it looked like was irrrelevant. What it was MADE of made all the difference! I still believe you are overlooking this factor in your assessment to date.
Having had My share of 'dating' experiences it has indeed been My experience that certain 'absolutes' are indeed prevalent.
Here is what I look for in a woman.
1. Good Christian Girl.
2. Is willing to be a wife and mother.
3. Try to live a Christian life as best she can.
Believe it or not a woman who has all three of the above are very hard to find. And when I do find one she is already taken. I am 40 now. And would like to start a family while I am still relatively young.
Unfortunately, as one who has had many opportunities to experience the Dating Game, it is My assessment that such 'general assumptions' are for the vast majority out there quite correct indeed.
Oh, you just hit the nail right on the head with that one!FOFLOLPIMP! I was just busting a gut about how her modesty and lack of self-esteem was just going to land her a millionare any minute now! Lol... -A Legend In Her Own Mind, no doubt! *grin*
Once again, I will say the obvious: you turned a discussion into a personal attack. And you did so first. So which of us touched a nerve?
Since the gloves are off, let me say that your attitude so far on this thread speaks volumes about why you don't understand why men won't be attracted to some women. You want a man to do all the work. He needs to fit "your" concept of a good man, but you reject totally the idea that you might have to compromise, too. What's so hard about smiling across the bar at a man? Are you afraid he won't smile back? Then you are the one with the issues...
Reread my original post. To draw any conclusions about my life or relationships from it says far more about you than it does me. You have no knowledge of me beyond what little I wish to share, yet you feel qualified to give me advice (and the arrogance to state that you know what motivates men better than men, even).
Feel free not to reply, because I have decided that you really don't have anything worth my listening to to say. And you might want to brush up on "disagreeing without turning it into a personal attack." Most men aren't attracted by that, either...
Spot on, mate!
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