Posted on 09/17/2005 6:59:48 AM PDT by teldon30
Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?
Deluxe Chopped Liver
Dear Deluxe: To scare away vampires, it takes garlic and crosses, which make ugly bulges in sleek, satin evening bags. Luckily, all you have to do to scare away men is pull out a business card that says ''senior vice president.''
''Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac,'' said Henry Kissinger. Sure it is unless you're a woman. Research by Stephanie L. Brown and Brian P. Lewis, published in Evolution and Human Behavior (Nov. '04), seems to confirm what many lonely women at the top already know: When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started.
Sure, plenty of men will scamper up the corporate ladder for a one-night stand. But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses. The researchers hypothesize that men evolved to want women they can control as a means of guarding against ''parental uncertainty'' unwittingly raising kids fathered by the Neanderthal next door as their own. Brown and Lewis think this may also explain why men are suckers for ''behavioral expressions of vulnerability'' women who act like they might not be able to make it across the street
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LOL!
Hiya, pissant!
Long time no see!
I will not dispute your observation that women use serial marriages to gain wealth. Our "successful" 32-year old executive would be even more capable of executing this strategy than some woman who has barely made it out of the trailer park. Imagine what caliber of attorney she could afford. Not that she would need a very good one, since the legal system is stacked against men in a divorce.
Most freepers have an obsession with rooting out the truth. Let's take take another look at our young executive's lament:
Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?
She states she is 32 years old and is second in command at a big company. I have worked for large (fortune 500) companies and have never seen a VP under the age of fifty. A little young to be "second in command". Also, VP's of "big companies" don't refer to themselves as "second in command at a big company". They just don't use this simplistic, immature verbiage. I conclude she is exaggerating her position in the company and the actual size of the company. I'd say she is more likely a manager in a retail establishment, if in management at all.
Our 32-year old "executive" states she is happy, sociable, and attractive. She wants us to believe she is well adjusted and beautiful. Well adjusted, attractive people have no difficulty finding a mate. Any executive has access to hundreds, if not thousands of other similar people via professional and trade organizations and blogs. She can't find a man here? I'm seriously beginning to doubt her bona fides.
She goes on to state that she is financially secure, and owns a beautiful home. She wants us to believe she is wealthy. She wants us to ask the question: Why don't men want me? Financial security is mostly in the eyes of the beholder. Let's see her mortgage payment.
Lastly, I make an observation about all the people I know in senior management of large corporations: They do not have the word "can't" in their vocabulary". Our little executive is a whining defeatist.
There is too much smell coming from her story. I think this person is just pissed off that she can't find a man and unwilling to face the real problem. She can find it by looking in the mirror. Every day.
The last nine words tells me all I need to know about this woman. Hope she enjoys her spinsterhood.
Hello MF!! Good to see ya! How's life in the desert SW these days?
Yep,
Sans wedding band, major (or minor) psychosis, bankruptcy,
walker/false teeth/pacemaker, Mom-as-current-roommate, no means of transportation and life-threatening illness.
OK, so mebby I'm being picky.
ROFL!!! I noticed bisexual wasn't on your list. LOL
I have known and admire several powerful women. As with men some fail in relationships because relationships are give and take and all they can give is directions and criticism. It takes a seriously well-grounded, self confident male like the OldEagle to be in a relationship with any woman. ;D
Absolutely gorgeous, today! About 72 right now, with a high of 96, not a cloud in the sky, and about 10% humidity...wish you were here!
;o]
"For the sake of your happy marriage, exercise some self-discipline and exile the wondering from your mind."
Like I said before....I'm happily married and been that way for almost fifteen years. Advice from you is not needed, though appreciated. :-}
"if a man doesn't have the strength to lead into a conversation to ask you out, how is he going to have the strength to lead a marriage? "
Well, and I say this helpfully, you may be intimidating even to a strong man. And there are a lot of strong but quiet men who wouldn't approach a lawyer, but would be quite serviceable if they were given the hint that they were expected to lead.
But just in a general sense, why would I be so foolish as to try and approach a female lawyer, who right away I will suspect will be 1) argumentative 2) career oriented, 3) liberal and out to defend the has-beens?
Which is not meant to be a reflection on you, but a reflection on the stereotype.
Check your FReepMail
ROFL!!! Too bad that wimmen who have jobs... don't have time to hang out and wait! LOL
I bumped into a really handsome guy at Starbuck's one evening. It was clear he was interested but never said anything. I was too shy/stunned to say anything......(it's been a long time since my heart raced like that!) BIG SIGH. I just haven't got this dating thing down yet. ha!
no, men do not like being pursued.
It is a myth put forth by feminsts for their simpleminded hetersexual feminst (does thate even exist?) sisters.
Had to get that out there before saying how any woman could resist having a bit of a crush on MadIvan for his silver pen, incomparable wit and obvious intelligence is beyond me ;-)!
I have loved him from afar ever since I've been lurking on FR. I bet a lot of Freeper women do. I absolutely LOVE to read his posts, what a deep, intelligent man.
Are your cheeks buring yet MadIvan? Really, I'll guarantee you have your own groupies on here.
Very broad statement.....most of the woman on FR aren't
Not all female lawyers are like that. I know from experience.
Yep Ivan, it is reasons like this, and others, that eventually caused me to go to the Philippines for a wife. I got a good one too, as long as I can keep her from getting too westernized.
(s)what would a straight man be doing in a Starbucks? seems like that is your first mistake there.(/s)
Me too. Instead I'm looking out my office window at the 55 degree overcast sky. I lived in Phoenix for 4 years, I remember liking anything under about 95 degrees there. Not a big fan of 115 though! :o)
Watch out Mark 17....you may get you eyes clawed out shortly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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