Posted on 09/17/2005 6:59:48 AM PDT by teldon30
Dear Amy: I'd like to be in a relationship again, but I never even get asked out (unless you count frisky 85-year-olds and drunks at the corner bar). I'm a 32-year-old woman who's happy, sociable, and attractive. (I paid for college by modeling and continue to take care of myself.) I'm second-in-command at a big company, financially secure, and own a beautiful home. How can I meet men in general, and more specifically, men I'd actually want to date?
Deluxe Chopped Liver
Dear Deluxe: To scare away vampires, it takes garlic and crosses, which make ugly bulges in sleek, satin evening bags. Luckily, all you have to do to scare away men is pull out a business card that says ''senior vice president.''
''Power is the ultimate aphrodisiac,'' said Henry Kissinger. Sure it is — unless you're a woman. Research by Stephanie L. Brown and Brian P. Lewis, published in Evolution and Human Behavior (Nov. '04), seems to confirm what many lonely women at the top already know: When guys go for the woman in the boardroom, it isn't the woman running the meeting but the secretary who wheeled in the coffee and croissants before it started.
Sure, plenty of men will scamper up the corporate ladder for a one-night stand. But, according to Brown and Lewis' study, men looking for dates or relationships tend to prefer their subordinates to their colleagues or bosses. The researchers hypothesize that men evolved to want women they can control as a means of guarding against ''parental uncertainty'' — unwittingly raising kids fathered by the Neanderthal next door as their own. Brown and Lewis think this may also explain why men are suckers for ''behavioral expressions of vulnerability'' — women who act like they might not be able to make it across the street
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"I wonder how long she'll keep him?"
Probably as long as Donald Trump keeps his third wife.
Yeah, didn't the "I know I'm hot, I used to be a model" bits just warm your heart?
Most men are available, you just have to let them know they are desired. Works 99.9% of the time.
Strangely, she hates Princess Di with vehemence and passion. I can only presume it has to do with her thinking that Diana had the role she should have.
I didn't say that to her. But I thought it.
Regards, Ivan
I think there are a lot of bitter, divorced men on FR who hate women. What they don't realize is that they sound exactly like the Feminazis they so despise, only in reverse. I'm going to start compiling their remarks, and someday I'm going to post them, with the sexes reversed, and then watch the "Mascu-nazis" get all outraged over the evil, hateful, unfair "anti-male" remarks! hehe.
Comment noted...thanks for bumping the thread
...coffee meets keyboard...
As a lawyer, you shouldn't be surprised that men, confronted with a playing field stacked heavily against them, are less willing to be aggressive - at least those not so highly placed as to be above the law. Did you hear about the woman who saved some man's sperm from oral sex, impregnated herself, and got a court to force the man to pay child support?
Since I am female that question is mute. But I have made an effort to understand men. Men are easy. If you don't have a man then you are doing something wrong period.
Surprisingly few women can pass that simple test.
>Secondly, I'm a Goth.<
Gosh, I didn't know Girl Goths wore Dior watches (she says innocently).
Let's not forget that those who control the fashion industry, and thus, decide who get to be models, are largely male homosexuals. In other words, models are picked by people who haven't a clue what really is desirable about women.
Clue: most blokes, myself included, like women who have at least some curves. Not women who look like stick insects on heroin.
Regards, Ivan
I think there's an element of truth in that...not as much as it used to be. Women at the top want men who can keep up with them, whereas men at the top don't really have that prerequisite.
Everybody looks for perfection. There's nothing wrong with that. The problem comes from refusing to consider anybody who is not perfect
Guys have three advantages over women. The first is that it's still expected for the guy to do the asking, and face the rejections. This discourages overweight plumbers from persuing Victoria's Secret models after a while. It provides a feedback mechanism to correct delusions.
The second is that a guy's friends are less likely to lie to him with "Oh, you're much too good for that ---" and "Don't worry, the perfect one will come along soon".
Third is that the average guy will prefer to sleep with a less-than-perfect woman, than sleep alone. The "chopped liver" executive sounds like she would rather be alone than be with somebody who does not meet her standards -- which means she will be alone.
The problem with having rigid "no-go" standards is that it constrains the set of people you would consider dating. If that set of people does not contain anybody who would be interested in dating YOU, then you're out of luck and alone
And the women who delude themselves that Prince Charming is out there (when they themselves are not Sleeping Beauty), are going to grow old alone
LOL excellent idea!
She wasn't a Goth. Sometimes one has to step out of the darkness. :)
Regards, Ivan
Sorry I just don't believe that...I think there still are some real men out there who play by their own rules as opposed to the so-called "modern world"
I'll take your advice to heart. Thanks.
has this been posted yet???? www.americanwomensuck.com ;)
just kidding!
No problem. Anyway in my little opinion relationships are always better when both sides know that the other side feels the same way. The pursing thing just bases the relationship on the man's ability (or, inability) to romantically dazzle the woman. And once they're married, it goes away (because the catch is made).
A good friend of mine fell victim to this, and it almost lead to the end of their marriage, a couple months after it had just started. The guy was so lovey and romantic in courting, and then once married, went to "normal" mode, and she was shocked. Took a lot of discussion for both to realize what happened. Just being yourselves is the better way to be, from the get go, in my opinion.
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